When someone you have been eyeing finally asks you out for the first date, be very careful not to spoil it. As the old adage goes, the first impression really matters. What you do and how you behave on your first date will determine if you will go for a second date or that will be the first and last one.
Here are some of the things you should avoid doing on the first date:
1. Push for intimacy
You barely know this person and what their boundaries are like. If possible, avoid touching or doing anything that makes you seem like you are pushing them to be intimate with you. When time comes, nature will take control and you won’t have to force things.
2. Being late
First of all, this is being rude. It portrays you as an inconsiderate person or one who does not care. Better late than never should never be an excuse on first dates. If something unexpected comes up and takes up your time, notify your date in advance that you are going to be late. They will respect you for it.
3. Forget about your appearance
This is your chance to make the best first impression. Put on a great outfit but also be careful about what you wear since outfits send messages too. You don’t want to look as if you are going for an interview and you also don’t want to seem sluttish. Choose carefully.
4. Be overly open about your life
Don’t reveal every other detail about your life on your first date. If you had a fight with your neighbor or are not in good terms with your family, this is not the best time to open up about such things. Some mystery will make your date want to meet you another day to find out more about you.
5. Don’t forget your manners
Being real is one thing but neglecting your manners is another and it does suck great. Don’t scroll your phone when your date is talking to you, don’t smoke unless your date is okay with it, and mind your language.
6. Don’t be boring
Yes, at least make some effort to ask questions and initiate a conversation. And about questions, ask the right questions. You don’t want to seem like you intruding into your date’s private life.